"At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us." - Albert Schweitzer
"Prior to 2003, if someone had told us we could survive the death of even one of our children, I would not have believed it. People ask us all the time: how do you do it? Even after all this time, many mornings I wake up thinking this is all a bad dream, but we were so blessed and so honored to have had such amazing sons, and remind ourselves continually that they were a gift. We did nothing to deserve them, and so our attitude must always be one of gratitude that we even had them at all.
It does not take away the pain, but it somehow puts light around the darkness and gives us the strength and courage to keep on living. We've learned that the more grateful our hearts are, the more we're filled with compassion for the needs of others.
It does not take away the pain, but it somehow puts light around the darkness and gives us the strength and courage to keep on living. We've learned that the more grateful our hearts are, the more we're filled with compassion for the needs of others.
We owe a loving gratitude to the many whose love and support helped us through each day; we want to bring meaning to the lives and deaths of our sons by honoring the sacrifice our soldiers are making every day for our nation and dedicating our service to suicide prevention. If we can help save one life in memory of our sons, then it is all worth it.
Please bookmark the "Resources" page for easy reference should anyone you know or encounter ever need assistance. The links are a small fraction of the many websites and resources where help is available.
Carol Graham
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